How to Seduce an Aries: Surefire Ways to Get Them Interested

So you're interested in an Aries. Here are ways to spark their interest and keep them coming back for more.

Updated April 30, 2024
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So you have your eye on an Aries. We get it. All that raw fiery energy is attractive. But even though Aries is super passionate, that doesn't mean it'll be an easy chase. Whether you want to attract an Aries man or an Aries woman, you'll need a little skill. But if you follow our tips for how to seduce an Aries, you could be well on your way to turning the Ram's attention to you. 

The Art of Seducing Aries

Aries is a headstrong sign, probably the most headstrong of the entire zodiac. They're impulsive (which could work in your favor), but their attention shifts quickly (and just when you were so close!). So when seducing an Aries, the first thing to remember is that both Aries women and men like things simple and straightforward. That doesn't mean you should jump all over an Aries the instant you spot one in the wild. You just want them to imagine what it would be like if you did.

Be Spontaneous

Aries is suspicious of anything that seems overly planned or rehearsed. They love to live life by the seat of their pants, and Aries wants a partner who will ride with them on their spontaneous adventures. If Aries gets even a hint that you might keep them from trying new things, they'll be on to greener pastures the second they suspect you want to pin them down. 

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Get Their Blood Pumping

Aries is intrigued by someone who looks like they'll be a ton of fun (and not too clingy). They can smell desperation a mile away and will avoid it like the plague. So, as your first act of Aries seduction, be confident, sexy, and unforgettable.

Go ahead and speak your mind! Aries likes that (and is like that), so be as blunt and daring as you dare. To seduce an Aries, smile and flirt. Make eye contact and be a little forward.

Spark Their Competitive Instinct

Aries is by far the most competitive sign of the zodiac. Aries wants to win, and they want it bad. So to seduce an Aries, you have to give them a game to win. Once you get their blood pumping with your bold self, back off and move on to someone or something else. Let Aries come after you. An Aries loves to compete and is not shy about going after what they want.

Offer Sincere Compliments

While they aren't the most vain of all zodiac signs (hello, Leo, we're looking at you), they definitely have their moments. And Aries doesn't just love compliments. They need them! Compliments assure them that they're desirable.

Need to Know

Aries also needs honesty. So find something genuine to compliment because they'll smell phony flattery a mile away and be running in a different direction in the blink of an eye. 

How to Attract & Seduce an Aries Woman

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An Aries woman is nobody's fool. She's incredibly confident and comfortable with herself. She likes and wants to have a partner, but she'd rather do without one than hook up with the wrong person.

Be Confident

Aries women find a quiet air of confidence super sexy. She's attracted to strong, independent, and assertive partners who want her but don't need her (she never wants to wind up with a stage 5 clinger) and are not afraid to stand up to her (but not so much that they're afraid to let her call the shots). 

Be Bold

Flirt outrageously with her and ask her for her digits (or even a date). This might make her believe you're strong and straightforward enough to take her on. If she turns you down, don't retreat completely, simply respond with a confident and challenging cheeky grin.

Let Her Take the Lead

Once you've taken the initiative, back off and allow her to take the lead — but don't be afraid to challenge her. It's a tough needle to thread, but having an attitude that says, "I want you, but I'm not going to chase after you" is very seductive to an Aries woman.

Don't Chase Her

If you chase her, she's going to run away. So instead of chasing or overly praising an Aries woman, remember she's likely to be attracted to someone who takes their own achievements as seriously as she takes hers.

How to Attract & Seduce an Aries Man

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If your eye is on an Aries man and you have romance in your heart, you'll need to spark his instinctual need to achieve, compete, and ultimately win. 

Pay Attention to Him

To seduce an Aries man, give him special attention (but don't be over the top). Be subtle, but make it clear to him that you're interested and you think he's the most desirable man in the room. Once you've established this, an Aries man will feel like it's his choice whether the two of you have a romantic encounter.

Stand Out in a Crowd

An Aries man is attracted to beauty, but he's looking for someone exceptional. You don't need to meet some standard of beauty — but you do need to stand out in a way that he finds attractive. He's excited by a person who stands out in a crowd. 

Display Confidence and Competence

Aries men don't typically go for shrinking violets, so let your confidence, competence, strength, and independence shine through. He'll find it sexy if you display your sense of humor, talk about your accomplishments, express your appreciation for others, and show a keen interest in his point of view.

Antagonize Him a Bit

Don't be afraid to take an opposite viewpoint on something you're passionate about. This will fascinate and pique an Aries man's interest and incite his inner need to dominate the situation, and he won't be able to get you out of his head. Being challenged sparks an Aries man's libido in amazing ways. Once his passion is ignited, it's a short trip to the bedroom.

Mistakes That Short Circuit Your Seduction of an Aries

If you've done great so far, there still are some things to avoid unless you want Aries to disappear in a wisp of smoke. With Aries's impulsivity, they lose interest just as quickly as it was sparked in the first place. 

Don't Be Clingy or Needy

Your Aries will love the fact that you're romantically interested, but remember, Aries has a strong independent streak. Aries dislikes a 'pick me' who constantly vies for their attention. Aries is independent, and they want a partner who is independent, too. Keep your own interests and friendships and maintain your sense of self. Jealous or clingy behavior will chase Aries away.

Don't Be Critical

Aries people prefer to have their egos stroked a bit, as long as you're not insincere. Harsh criticism is a sure love buzz kill. It's an error you probably won't get the chance to make twice.

Don't Be a Sure Thing

Aries loves a bit of a challenge, so don't head straight for the bedroom if your love interest invites you over. Be seductive and open but not completely obvious, or your Aries will lose interest fast.

Keep the Passion Alive With an Aries

Never let the object of your passions know you're entirely in their power. If you do, you may eventually find yourself being taken for granted. Keep just a little mystery between the two of you, as well as a bit of distance. This will keep your Aries interested and in hot pursuit.

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