Waiting for a Divorcing Man Tips
Waiting for a divorcing man is difficult and may seem like you have to wait forever. However, the reward of being with someone you love is worth it. To help you get through this time, you may want to keep these tips in mind.
Support and Compassion
While he may have let go of his feelings for his wife, he may still be sad during the divorce process. His marriage may not have turned out how he liked but it does have a history with many positive memories attached to it. Understanding that he needs to grieve the end of the marriage and supporting him through it will show how much compassion and love you have for him.
Understand the Marriage
Many people have a difficult time crossing the line from separation to divorce and will remain in limbo for years. Some will date other people with no intention of ever getting divorced. It's important to discuss your boyfriend's true intentions and see progress towards divorce while you wait. If your boyfriend doesn't commit to you or you don't see any follow through with the divorce proceedings - you may be waiting for someone who will never be yours.
Give Him Space
Constantly asking him when the divorce will be final and pushing him towards it will make him feel uncomfortable, which could make him resent you. Give him space and time. If he truly wants to be with you, he will proceed with the divorce as quickly as he is able to.
Take Time to Get to Know Him
If this is someone you want to be with for the long term, waiting for him to divorce is an excellent time to get to know him better. Spend time doing things you both enjoy and just appreciate the time you have together. Doing this will decrease the stress of divorce for both of you and make the time go by more quickly.
Keep Yourself Busy
Thinking about the wait will make it seem like its longer so keep busy. Take up a new hobby, dive into your work or just spend more time with friends. As the days go by, you'll be surprised at how much less you've been thinking about it.
Get Support from Loved Ones
While the divorcing man needs support, you do as well. This is difficult time for you because you want it finalized as soon as possible. Talking to loved ones about how you feel during the process will help you relax and keep your eye on the prize of being with the one you love.
Love Conquers All
Waiting for a divorcing man is the ultimate expression of love. You're willing to go through a difficult time with him and stand by him the whole time. This support will not only show him how much you care but will strengthen the love you have for him. People who say that love conquers all have come through some of the most tortuous situations still holding each other close.
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